Every channel that is flipped on TV , Every newspaper s front page is showing about the horrendous crime committed.
Everybody, from all over the country are reacting to it , either by providing their opinion on it or by participating in candle walks or by putting up statuses in their social media accounts.
But then, was it really her fault? was she wearing provocative clothes? was she roaming with men at night? was it too late for her to be out?? was she there enjoying with someone else? was she asking for favors? what was her fault really? ….of being a female? or of being a second class citizen of this country
Every person who is condemning the act is asking for justice. To hang them or to shoot them immediately. Their punishment is not declared yet and even if that is done- does it really make a difference?? does it really bring any change to the current societal situation? Does it really stop from committing another such crime in future?
Humans have really little memory. The justice done will be forgotten in no time and the same thing keeps repeating itself again and again and again. Every body keeps talking about the change that needs to come in the society, about how men should start behaving, about how a women should be treated etc,etc,etc.,
But, how many of them really care to make an effort to bring that change? how many of the mothers who ask their daughters to stay safe while out actually ask their sons to behave when out too? how many of the mothers who ask their daughters to help in the kitchen actually ask their sons also give a helping hand at home? how many of the fathers who send their sons out of station or even out of country for further studies or for job actually also send their daughters too?
Even today, when, i see so many men talking about their working wives managing their work life balance beautifully and stuff like that- its feels so sad to hear that….why is it still conceived as a surprise? Why is it still not normal? Why does a man still feel that he is doing a favor by allowing his wife to work? why is he still putting himself in that superior position of ALLOWING his wife? Isn’t it her basic right to decide if she wants to work or no, does she still really need someone else to allow her to do what she really wants to do.
As a girl i want to see a day where my brother tags along with me just because he wants to be with me and not to protect or safeguard me. It really boils me from inside, when i see seats in public transport reserved for ladies or a percentage of quota reserved for girls for jobs or college administration. when we say girls should be empowered or equipped, it shouldn’t mean the reservations…it should mean the equality. we are really really far from it to reach there
I feel all that big changes that we talk about should start as a small change which begins at home – By not categorizing sons to do outdoor work and daughters to do kitchen or indoor stuff. Both of them should be dealt with utmost care and respect so, they value each other equally And in order to do that, we should first acknowledge that ours is a male dominated society and it cannot be changed over night and would need continuous effort from every responsible citizen who genuinely think that women are no less.
I have a daughter and my worry for her safety increases every single day. I just wish, she lives her life on her own terms with all that she deserves with out any disturbances.
Thanks and Regards,